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We’ve all been there — the agent on the opposite finish of the transaction is aggressive, short-fused, and inconceivable to work alongside. Each query or request is met with confrontation, and there’s no try at collaboration towards the shared aim of closing the transaction. 

So, what do you do? Do you meet them with the identical anger, keep it up with a tough exterior, and beat one another down till you cross the end line? Or do you discover a solution to be the larger particular person and “take one for the crew” so everybody can peacefully work collectively?

On this scenario, I like to present myself the identical pep discuss I give my 8-year-old daughter and produce it again to the fundamentals: Sometimes, different individuals’s frustration has nothing to do with you. You could have change into the scapegoat for the opposite agent’s issues, fears or worries with out even understanding it. The opposite agent seemingly has one thing happening of their life, inflicting them to deal with others in a means that may really feel aggressive or hurtful. The very best answer is to be direct and type, and strategy the scenario thoughtfully. 

Beneath are a couple of frequent examples of coping with unreasonable brokers on the opposite facet of the deal and the way I take care of each.

The agent who speaks for the purchasers

For instance, if an agent is attacking me for my shopper’s request for repairs, I all the time ask the identical query as calmly as I presumably can:

“Have you ever talked to your shopper but? Is that this their response, or is it yours?”

That is my favourite query as a result of it presents a second of inward reflection and pause from the agent on the opposite facet. Usually, I’ll study that the shopper hasn’t seen no matter doc we’re speaking about but, which presents further perception on how you can strategy the rest of the transaction.

The overreactive agent

If I do know the agent is fast to react, I may be extra strategic in every dialog I’ve with them from that time ahead. So, for instance, if I want to start a dialog which will trigger friction, I’ll lead with one thing like this: 

“We’re on the identical crew, and I need to work with you to get this deal throughout the end line. To do this, now we have to return to some kind of settlement on repairs. Why don’t I share my shopper’s requests with you, after which we are able to brainstorm collectively on how you can discover a center floor.”  

Approaching every dialog from a collaborative perspective units the tone, and it’s fundamental human nature at that time to reply extra respectfully.

The agent who wants boundaries

However what about when you’ve an agent on the opposite facet who sees crimson and received’t reply nicely to your approaches? That’s when your directness and limits come into play.  

When you’ve got an agent, or a shopper, who’s treating you poorly, step one is to calmly talk the boundaries by which you’re keen to speak. 

For instance, if each time you choose up the telephone, the agent raises their voice to you, you possibly can talk through electronic mail and say one thing like: 

“Based mostly on our previous few telephone conversations, I’ve determined we must always solely talk through electronic mail any longer. I don’t admire being yelled at or spoken to within the tone I’ve skilled. I’m keen to try a telephone dialog once more if we are able to agree on how we’ll work collectively to attain our mutual aim of closing this deal.” 

Bringing consciousness to your boundaries and the way in which the agent has been treating you’ll nearly all the time warrant a extra respectful dialog. But when it doesn’t, maintain true to your boundaries, and solely talk below the phrases you see match. 

Actual property is a extremely emotional enterprise as a result of we’re serving to purchasers with their most beneficial investments, nevertheless it doesn’t imply that we, as brokers, have to tackle these identical feelings. I see it as our job to remain calm, cool, and picked up, particularly within the face of turbulence. The following time you expertise a hot-headed agent, attempt these tricks to cool it down. 

Amie Quirarte is a luxurious actual property agent with Tahoe Luxurious Properties in California and Nevada. Join together with her on Fb or LinkedIn.